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PREFACE
THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD-1.1
THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD-1.2
THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD-1.3
THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD-1.4
THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD-1.5
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.1
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.2
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.3
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.4
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.5
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.6
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.7
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.8
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.9
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.10
SEXUAL EDUCATION-2.11
SEXUAL EDUCATION AND NAKEDNESS-3.1
SEXUAL EDUCATION AND NAKEDNESS-3.2
SEXUAL EDUCATION AND NAKEDNESS-3.3
SEXUAL EDUCATION AND NAKEDNESS-3.4
THE VALUATION OF SEXUAL LOVE-4.1
THE VALUATION OF SEXUAL LOVE-4.2
THE VALUATION OF SEXUAL LOVE-4.3
THE VALUATION OF SEXUAL LOVE-4.4
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.1
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.2
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.3
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.4
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.5
THE FUNCTION OF CHASTITY-5.6
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.1
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.2
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.3
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.4
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.5
THE PROBLEM OF SEXUAL ABSTINENCE-6.6
PROSTITUTION-7.1
PROSTITUTION-7.2
PROSTITUTION-7.3
PROSTITUTION-7.4
PROSTITUTION-7.5
PROSTITUTION-7.6
PROSTITUTION-7.7
PROSTITUTION-7.8
PROSTITUTION-7.9
PROSTITUTION-7.10
PROSTITUTION-7.11
PROSTITUTION-7.12
PROSTITUTION-7.13
PROSTITUTION-7.14
PROSTITUTION-7.15
FOOTNOTES-1
FOOTNOTES-2

way. If I had this affliction once a month, once a week, even 

twice a week, to stand against it would be child's play. I should 

scorn to resort to unnatural means, however moderately. But 

self-control itself has its revenges, and I sometimes feel as if 

it is no longer to be borne." 

 

Thus while it is an immense benefit in physical and psychic development if 

the eruption of the disturbing sexual emotions can be delayed until 

puberty or adolescence, and while it is a very great advantage, after that 

eruption has occurred, to be able to gain control of these emotions, to 

crush altogether the sexual nature would be a barren, if not, indeed, a 

perilous victory, bringing with it no satisfaction. "If I had only had 

three weeks' happiness," said a woman, "I would not quarrel with Fate, but 

to have one's whole life so absolutely empty is horrible." If such vacuous 

self-restraint may, by courtesy, be termed a virtue, it is but a negative 

virtue. The persons who achieve it, as the result of congenitally feeble 

sexual aptitudes, merely (as Gyurkovechky, Fuerbringer, and Loewenfeld have 

all alike remarked) made a virtue of their weakness. Many others, whose 

instincts were less weak, when they disdainfully put to flight the desires 

of sex in early life, have found that in later life that foe returns in 

tenfold force and perhaps in unnatural shapes.[104] 

 

The conception of "sexual abstinence" is, we see, an entirely false and 

artificial conception. It is not only ill-adjusted to the hygienic facts 

of the case but it fails even to invoke any genuinely moral motive, for it 

is exclusively self-regarding and self-centred. It only becomes genuinely 

moral, and truly inspiring, when we transform it into the altruistic 

virtue of self-sacrifice. When we have done so we see that the element of 

abstinence in it ceases to be essential, "Self-sacrifice," writes the 

author of a thoughtful book on the sexual life, "is acknowledged to be the 

basis of virtue; the noblest instances of self-sacrifice are those 

dictated by sexual affection. Sympathy is the secret of altruism; nowhere 

is sympathy more real and complete than in love. Courage, both moral and 

physical, the love of truth and honor, the spirit of enterprise, and the 

admiration of moral worth, are all inspired by love as by nothing else in 

human nature. Celibacy denies itself that inspiration or restricts its 

influence, according to the measure of its denial of sexual intimacy. Thus 

the deliberate adoption of a consistently celibate life implies the 

narrowing down of emotional and moral experience to a degree which is, 

from the broad scientific standpoint, unjustified by any of the advantages 

piously supposed to accrue from it."[105] 

 

In a sane natural order all the impulses are centred in the fulfilment of 

needs and not in their denial. Moreover, in this special matter of sex, it 

is inevitable that the needs of others, and not merely the needs of the 

individual himself, should determine action. It is more especially the 

needs of the female which are the determining factor; for those needs are 

more various, complex and elusive, and in his attentiveness to their 

gratification the male finds a source of endless erotic satisfaction. It 

might be thought that the introduction of an altruistic motive here is 

merely the claim of theoretical morality insisting that there shall be a 

firm curb on animal instinct. But, as we have again and again seen 

throughout the long course of these _Studies_, it is not so. The animal 

instinct itself makes this demand. It is a biological law that rules 

throughout the zooelogical world and has involved the universality of 


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